Felicia Nubivn is a social worker, researcher, and advocate for social justice. We connected over Twitter, and she shared that she had been using a butterfly garden in telehealth sessions. Since I’m always looking for more telehealth ideas, I reached out, and Felicia was kind enough to take time to talk with me about her butterfly garden.
Felicia has shared more about her decision to create a butterfly garden on her blog. She created the garden with the intention of healing her own inner child: “Most of our destructive behaviors come from what we learned as children.” She had just started a new job as an outpatient therapist and wanted to work on her own healing as well as that of her clients.
Although a butterfly garden could be a metaphor used in any session, telehealth is an especially apt way to communicate this to clients, since they can literally see the development and lifecycle over several weeks. You are not just talking about growth and transformation; you are seeing it in real time.
In telehealth sessions, Felicia would show kids the different stages of growth in the garden, from caterpillars to cocoons to butterflies. She shared with me, “Metamorphosis is very similar and symbolic of healing.” Kids were intrigued by the butterflies’ growth process, and Felicia tied these stages into the children’s own stages of personal growth and healing.
Butterflies are a great metaphor for moving on and termination in therapy. Young clients especially are often hesitant to stop therapy even when they have made great progress because change is scary. But as we see with butterflies, even though the cocoon feels safe and comfortable, we outgrow it and are ready to move on.
Although the butterfly release can’t feasibly happen during sessions, Felicia shared that her clients love hearing that the butterflies got to move on to their next stage and are ready to be independent because she took such good care of them as they grew.
Growth is important, but change can be scary and painful. We are all becoming something even better than we were before if we can let ourselves leave the safety of what’s familiar.
You can purchase a kit to create your own butterfly garden on Amazon or check with a local butterfly rescue for resources. If you want to use butterflies in your telehealth sessions but don’t have the space or capacity to create your own garden, the University of Florida offers a live feed of their Chrysalis Cam as well as time-lapsed videos of the different phases.